Want to learn how to be a REAL man? Here’s a list of habits and knick-knacks you should equip yourself with in your quest to become a gentleman.
Patterns for Perfection
- Lose the Ego. A gentleman is someone that’s liked by everyone he meets. Why? Because he respects others and stands out in the crowd without being full of himself. Real show-offs are real turn-offs.
- Chivalry Is Not Dead. Hold the door open for people. Stand up when a lady leaves the table. The words, “please” and “thank you”, should be part of your everyday vocabulary regardless of whom you’re speaking with. Cut down on using the word “dude”. Not completely though cuz two men can have an entire conversation with just the word “dude”.
- Know Your Meats. This isn’t a throwback to caveman days when men were the hunter and brought home the beef. It’s a matter of how most people freaking love meat and a standup guy will know how to cook it. That topic could really be its own book but I’ll start you off with the tip of pressing your nose, chin, or forehead to know if your steak is rare, medium rare, or well done (FYI: never cook a steak well done or I will make you wear a meat suit in the woods).
- Drink Whisky and Smoke Cigars Until You Get Liver Cancer (kidding). Please note the spelling for “whisky”. I’m not trying to be a snob here but it’s good practice to know that “whisky” refers to distilled alcoholic beverages originating from Scotland whereas “whiskey” is reserved for the non-Scottish variety (God bless bourbon and rye). Choice of cigar is up to the individual but you can’t beat a good Montecristo No. 2 with its Connecticut style wrapper and signature torpedo shape. Pairs great with a sherry oak Macallan whisky.
- Know How to Work with Your Hands. Get off your lazy ass and learn how to fix a garbage disposal. Change a tire. Build a bookshelf. A real man has a “can do” attitude and doesn’t have to rely on someone else very often. (Unless his cell phone dies and he’s being chased by a serial killer.)
Tools for Your Arsenal
- Old-Fashioned Shoe Shine Kit. Ever see the movie, Shawshank Redemption? “How often do you look at a man’s shoes?” Maybe that applies to men in prison but nowadays, the way a man dresses says a lot about his character. A solid pair of shoes and proper upkeep is a good starting place. Also, how good was that movie? Right?
- A Stylish Watch. Guys don’t have as many ways to accessorize as women do. Shirt, pants, belt, shoes. That’s pretty much it unless we’re wearing a top hat and monocle (“Do not pass GO“). A good quality watch should do the trick. Get a digital watch and I will slap you.
- Quality Drinkware. You should have a decent set of tumblers, snifters, and cocktail glasses to serve your guests. It’s not just about appearance. Choice of glassware can actually affect drink temperature, proper aroma delivery, and taste.
- A Pair of Leather Boots. Not cowboy boots (unless you’re a Texan or ranch hand) but legit boots for hiking and working outside.
- A good grooming kit. Last but not least, a proper gentleman will have everything from an old-school shaving kit to simple product to help make himself a suave operator. If you’re asking me what you should be grooming, that’s way too personal of a conversation I don’t want to have with you.
“Dapper Dan” anyone?